Call Yourself Out Already

Call Yourself Out: A series on habit-breaking 1 out of (I haven’t decided yet)

Hold yourself accountable. Don’t be so ‘the same’…so consistent. You’ve tried all of that before. Values and judgments, like habits, can change. It’s a mind-set. Go put on the head of someone else; someone with different values and beliefs. Try on a different brain shirt or a different brain lipstick. If you’re so stagnant and stuck in your ways, consider a need to move on — kind of like how you would from a stalemate-like relationship or career.

FIVE Ways to Shift your Judgey-ness:

#1: What do you judge?

Shop your brain waves: think about the things you judge, the people who are different from you. The ones who aren’t cool enough, that person with a cane, that person in a Range Rover. Look around. What is the thing you judge the most?

#2: Write one thing down that you judge.

Write that “thing you judge the most” down on a piece of paper. Why? It makes the circumstance more real because it’s in writing. Consider it a personal contract (that you will break).

#3: Own what you judge. Go about your life and track when that judgment comes up. You can write it on a piece of paper or in your phone’s NOTES. How does it make you feel? Imagine expressing that judgment to the person or thing you are judging? What would you say? Say it. What happens?

#4 Call yourself out. Reassess: What was it like to notice? What was it like to call yourself out? Were you honest? Have a little conversation with yourself.

#5 Repeat

Repeat steps 1– 4. It’s the only way to keep cleaning out the thing that you judge. Keep looking at it. Own it. See it. Release it. Ask yourself: is it useful to carry this judgment around or is it too heavy?

Sidebar: I am working on shifting my own judgments and I know that by writing this, I am judging that we all make judgments. So, what’s the difference between being human and being judged? Is there one? Are you good with the idea that “all humans are judge-y?” We’ve all been on both sides of the judgment coin, right?

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