Let Yourself Feel Anger

I’m not alone when I say this, I know I’m not, but here goes: I give up.

I give up on trying to convince folks to stay home, mask-up, and keep a distance. I give up on begging people I love to follow protocols that will keep them safe because, at the end of the day, they will do what they want.

I give up because in giving energy to these things and calling out others, I have also given up on myself. Given up on things that are important to me while trying to protect others. But it only winds up biting me in the a*!.

They say when you get angry, it’s your mental cue to create new boundaries; boundaries that make you feel safe. It’s your cue to ask for what makes you feel valued, heard, and seen; and when these are infringed upon, especially in a life-or-death situation, it’s time to check-in with your boundaries and personal needs.

Are there ones that worked for you in the past that have now gone stale? I’m talking about your personal values and how you choose to live.

And it’s hard. It’s hard to know what you want and even harder to say and ask for what you need, because oftentimes you are asking people who you love most, and sometimes harshly, to get the point across. You’re literally standing in front of them, emotionally naked, begging them to see you — because sometimes that’s the only way to be seen. To allow yourself to be angry and to call the shots, and to somehow avoid ridicule and backlash in the process.

Take a giant breath, stand up strong, and speak your truth.

It’s awful to not be heard and it’s maybe even worse to ignore what you need when you need it most.